9 Reasons to fall in love with an older man

You’ve probably heard what you may think is an urban legend: Older men are better. Is this really the case? We’re going to prove to you in 9 points that yes, a Jules who has lived more springs than you, is a good thing that you should be proud of or that could make you accept that date that your neighbor of 7 years more than you has offered you.

1. They’ve lived on their own and know how to handle themselves

Yes, when you put it that way, you might think you’re talking about a cat, but really, without wanting to generalize, it’s almost certain that the 30+ year old man you’ve chosen has already lived – at least one season – alone. Without his parents, without his roommates, without his brothers and sisters, etc… This changes a lot of things: He will for example be fully aware of the importance of household chores. He will also know how to cook a minimum, unless he was subscribed to the daily chips / Chinese noodles / prepared meals -Ray the unnecessary mention-. An independent man who doesn’t need a housekeeper, an autonomous fiancé, this is what could delight you.

2. They have some financial stability

He went through the period when he had to do a series of jobs and internships with varying degrees of pay after graduation, where he had to save up for that famous student’s pasta at the risk of not knowing if he would make it to the end of the month without having to ask his friends or worse, his parents for help… Today, your fiancé has a stable situation that allows him to not dread each month. Although this should not be the main point in a love relationship, be aware of it, it avoids many arguments, stress and delicate situations. A situation that is not precarious will allow you to imagine a future together, to make plans, especially if your situation is also stable.

3. They know what a love relationship is

At their age, you can be sure that they have experienced several romantic relationships. From romance to crushes to vacation crushes to passionate and rational relationships, these Jules know what love is and what can be mistaken for love…wrongly. Commitment, he knows what it means. He has experienced breakups and broken hearts. So you can be sure that today, your fiancé and his experience will not play with your feelings and make you believe anything.

4. They are more educated

Although we should not generalize, there is a good chance that your other half is more mature, has more experiences, and is a bit more intelligent and interesting than your previous companions. They have lived through hardships, they have traveled more, met more people, etc… Their few extra years have been punctuated by events that have forged a real character and a culture that is a little more solid than people of your age. You will admire him, and that’s the best! More enriching discussions, stories to tell until the end of the night, advice, a particular vision of life….You got it: All positive!

5. They are more respectful

With your previous boyfriends, you often had the feeling that chivalry and gestures of attention were secondary. Good manners weren’t something you did every day. At times, it bordered on rudeness? Your older Jules will have learned from his mistakes, he will know how to respect you, your values, your friends and one of the ways to show his deference will be to treat you well and show you that you can count on him. Consistently.

6. They have more confidence in themselves and are therefore less jealous!

By the simple fact that they know themselves better and that they have had more experience than people your age, they will have more confidence in themselves and therefore in you: They will not fear that you will go elsewhere because they will have in mind that they deserve you. Be careful, we are not talking about men who are too sure of themselves, no! Just those who are not afraid of the presence of other men around you, for fear that you will flinch… This will prevent you from jealousy crises at the restaurant or among your relatives, among others, and will allow you not to lose your closest friends.

7. They know that your priority may be your career advancement

Do you have career aspirations? A position that you are aiming for, goals that you absolutely want to achieve within the year? Perfect! Your man will understand why this is so important to you. He will help you to take up the challenges you have set yourself and will encourage you in your ascension. Your partner will already be well advanced in his life, giving you the best advice and showing anything but selfishness. Beyond a passionate relationship that lasts a few years (three if you believe the experts), your relationship will be based on support. An irreplaceable glue.

8. They’ve made mistakes before and know how to avoid them

Thanks to his experiences, your Jules knows what is good for him and what is not. He or she has most certainly made mistakes and remembers them at a minimum. The same is true for his relationships. He knows about unnecessary fears and doubts and wants to avoid them now. This means that if he has committed himself to you, it is because he is sure of himself and believes in it! As if his previous relationships had been training sessions for him, he is now offering you his best version of himself.

9. He will accept you as you are

Be sure of this: He won’t try to change you. Since he has learned from his mistakes and previous relationships, he is fully aware that changing someone is impossible. If he is with you, it is because he loves everything about you and does not intend to ask you to be someone else. He will take advantage of you, your flaws and your charming imperfections. Of course, try to do the same on your side.